Grief on Losing a Loved One

We’ve been experiencing that many people have lost beloved friends and family members in the last few months, some through suspicious circumstances and suicide but also through illness.

We feel your shock and grief. Sometimes, the grief can feel like a deep pit where the pain and horror of infinite Loss and Missing lie. Sometimes, it is numbed because the pain is so great that you feel you would be swallowed and destroyed by it if you allow yourself to feel.

Or, if you are very close to the beloved one, the pain of their leaving can send you spinning into an anchor-less space as all foundation in your life crumbles and the ground disappears. All you want to do is to follow the beloved to the other side.

Here are some Releasing Statements to ease your hearts, dear ones.

Allow the tears to flow freely if they well up. They are the ice in your heart melting.

Say them out loud and take your time.

I release my deep shock finding out that my mother/ father/ dear friend (insert name)/ husband/ wife/ brother/ sister…has died so suddenly. I release the shock from my mind, body cells and energy field and on all levels of my being.

So it is.

(Say this more than once and after each time, take a deep breath and slowly let it go…until you feel your chest is lighter and freer.)

I release all decisions to numb my pain, out of fear to be overwhelmed or destroyed by my pain and grief. That fear I release now. So it is.

I open myself now to feel everything that I feel knowing that if the pain could destroy me, it already would have. It’s safe to feel my pain and I allow as much as I can handle right now to come up, be felt and expressed.

I release my fear to lose control if I allow myself to feel my pain.

I release all need for control.

I know I’m safe. So it is.

I release my decision to hold on tightly to my pain and never let it go out of fear to lose the beloved forever if I let the pain go. I let the pain go now.

I release my pain believing that my heart is broken.

I release my anger for (insert person) for leaving so soon, before I’m ready. I release my feeling of guilt for feeling angry. I forgive him/ her and I forgive myself. So it is.

I release my feeling of guilt, feeling that I did not spend as much time with him/ her when I should and could have. And I release my fear that he/ she might think that I don’t love him/ her. I forgive myself now. So it is.

I open myself to trust that he/ she knows my heart and that I love him/ her.

I release my fear that I will never ever see or be with this person (insert person) again and that we are forever separated.

I release my deep grief, believing that we will be forever separated. So it is.

(Take a deep breath)

I release my idea and conviction that without (insert person) in my life, that life is now meaningless and not worth living. I let that go. So it is.

And I release my pain and grief missing (insert person) so much.

I release all decisions of my soul to destroy myself and die or go to the other side towards death to be with my passed away (insert person) so that we can be together forever and always. I let those decisions go now.

So it is.

Affirmations:

I open myself to know that we will meet again one day when the time is right. But not now, not yet.

I let (insert person) go now to higher hands where he/ she is loved and well taken care of. I know that separation is an illusion. There is no real separation. I come fully back to my body now and I stay here to make full and best use of my time and my life and to be happy. So it is.

I choose to see, to know and to experience that the Divine Consciousness that I AM is my foundation and I anchor myself in my Divine Presence right now.

I open myself fully to experience life anew, strong and complete in my being.

I choose now to send my love to (insert person) and I open my heart to receive love from him/ her wherever he/ she is right now.

I heal now. SO IT IS.

We hope these statements will give you some relief and we send all of you our love,

Heiko and Selina